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Secondly, saying "I'm not emotionally available" is not being honest. Saying "I'm not emotionally available and when I am I won't want to have anything to do with you because you were stupid enough to deal with me when I wasn't ready to open up," is honest, but it's NOT what men say.
Third, the whole idea of telling a woman upfront what YOU want is exactly the kind of self-centered dreck that makes so many men hard to deal with. If you don't want a woman who is going to fall in love with you – maybe you should start by finding out what SHE wants before you start telling her about your wants and needs.
There are women out there who don't want a relationship, but you're never going to find those if you're busy telling women who do want relationships that you don't want one. A woman who wants a relationship and is attracted to you will go along with it when you say you don't want one right now. She does it because she likes you and sees something in you and she's willing to wait for what she wants. And then she get not only doesn't get it, she gets blasted for being stupid enough to get involved with someone who is NEVER going to give it to her.
The reality is most men want what they want without being accountable, AND they want to feel like they're good guys. So they're "honest" about not wanting a relationship because they feel like that absolves them of accountability when the woman ends up falling in love.