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"Live" rape fantasties are emotional and often physical nitroglycerine. One wrong move, and you've got ruins, especially in a man-rapes-woman scenario. Why, then, would someone assume that the guy should remain emotionally unscarred in such a situation? Leaving the potential legal ramifications on the sidelines, this woman's desire to be "really" raped by her lover displays a disturbing lack of empathy, wisdom, and respect for all parties involved.
Rape requires at least two parties: someone willing and someone not. Am I the only one who wonders, in a situation such as what this woman says she wants, who'd really be raping whom?
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Posted by Satyrblade on January 14, 2011 at 8:52 AM · Report
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Thanks satyrblade. I agree with your comments about the impact on the raper in this scene. Consideration needs to be give to all involved. As a rape victim, who has enjoyed only consensual, mostly vanilla sex, I don't 'get it'. The loss of control that the rapee wishes. My sexuality is so important to me, and for me to be able to feel safe in a relationship is so important. We all have feelings, and responsibility to respect that the other person has them as well. Well said
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SueWise on January 14, 2011 at 3:40 PM · Report
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I don't think that's it at all. What she doesn't like about the safe word is that she would know she has an out. She likes the idea that something is being done to her
and there's nothing she can do to stop it so she can lay back and enjoy it. Having a safe word would mean she is in control at all times, and she wants to feel like she isn't in control.
Not that I think it's a good idea, but I think the reasoning behind it.
Posted by Caralain on January 14, 2011 at 4:33 PM · Report
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Louis CK has a great bit that deals with this exact situation. Sounds like this women is not alone in her fantasies.