The Five Most Important Attributes of Love
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Five Reasons to Call Off a Relationship
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Five Tips Every Woman Should Know
Five Tips for Creating Intimacy
Five Ways to Keep Him Interested
Five Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend
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DrivingMeNutes says:
February 22, 2011 at 11:16 pm
I’m with VJ on this point. Working hard and busting your ass is not the way to achieve a relationship. That’s the problem. Let;’s say I decide I want to be President of the United States and spend my whole life busting my ass to achieve that goal. I will never be president of the United States. It’s an unrealistic goal. And, at some point, my failure to recognize that is MY CHOICE. MY “FAULT.” It’s not that there is something morally “wrong” with me. I’ve just made bad choices.
I agree with you wholeheartedly that much of our lives are constrained by circumstance and things not of our choosing. But, good decision-making – to increase your chance of sucess – is made WITHIN those constraints and recognizing one’s limitations.
“There is a lid for every pot” is just as much of a pablum platitude as “it’s not your fault.”
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JoyC says:
February 22, 2011 at 11:59 pm
Moxie posted an article from the Village Voice last week and one of the posters made a comment, it was a foreigner, and referred to dating in American society as “not dating, but shopping”, probably poking at the strong capitalist/materialism we are so known for, but this comment struck a chord in me. We do treat dating like shopping. I was looking to replace my tattered winter coat and a few stores later, voila…I found one. I was determined, I wanted to find the right coat…and I found it, the right fit, the right color, at the right price. Unfortunately, the coat had no choice in the matter, it was going to be bought by me.