laidnyc
August 29, 2013 at 2:02 pm
Great post. Empathizing with your target’s weaknesses is an important part of knocking her off the pedestal.

When you realize girls are just people with their own anxieties and problems and even social deficiencies, it becomes easier to connect with them.

Urs
August 29, 2013 at 3:02 pm
Yeah, I gotta say as a chick that we don’t usually know what’s going on with you guys. I’ve been approached by a lot of guys in my lifetime, and I’ve never once gotten the impression that any of them were nervous. It’s only recently that it has ever even occurred to me that men aren’t always the uber confident rock stars that I’ve generally interpreted (and envied) them to be.

But also, there is also definitely aproachee anxiety. Any time a guy walks up to me, I am usually thinking, “Uh oh. What does he want?” I am not sure if he will simply want to know something like where the bathrooms are, or if I am about to get hit on. Which isn’t necessarily so bad, but sometimes it’s very vulgar and uncomfortable. And also, I am married, and this doesn’t always garner a pleasant reaction, either – I almost hate to even mention it because some guys are so ugly about it. Even if it is a nice guy just trying to have a nice conversation with me, I feel weird and guilty about it, like I’m not only betraying my husband, but also leading this poor guy on by continuing to converse with him.


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