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YR, any tips on keeping around girls who want your kiddos that are utterly crushed when they realize they aren’t going to have them? It sucks investing in all that intimacy and bonding, only to have them break clean out of heartache. Suggestions?
on January 2, 2013 at 8:12 pm
“any tips on keeping around girls who want your kiddos that are utterly crushed when they realize they aren’t going to have them?”
I didn’t give you a million dollars today…were you crushed by that? Nope. ‘Cause you weren’t expecting me to give you a million dollars today. You probably don’t even hate me or resent me and our relationship could stay the same.
Now what if I told you, or hinted at, or simply allowed you to convince yourself that I was going to give you a million dollars today and you spent all month dreaming about it and how you’d spend it and how it’d feel to hold in your hands and all the ways your life would be amazing as soon as I give you that million dollars…and then today I don’t give you that million dollars. How much more disappointed would you be then? You’d probably resent me and it might even be too frustrating and disappointing after all that build-up in your head to even be around me anymore.
In your 20s, they probably assumed you weren’t going to provide kids etc. because you’re still young and doing your thing. In your 30s, they probably assume you’re ready to start settling down because society tells us that men should be marrying and raising kids in our 30s so by default they assume it’s an option if they win you over.