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You’re actually sort of running Short-Set Method, which is basically early in the night, going group to group and dropping little comments and having little mini-interactions and moving on, with the intention of re-opening later on. This is a great way to build up social proof and shake off the cobwebs of socializing and get in the groove.
As a short guy, coming off like you know a lot of people is powerful for you, because it displays pre-selection and social dominance that girls assume a tall guy has by default just because he’s tall. People have no idea how deep social connections go, they always assume they’re really deep. So when you walk past a group you’ve only chatted with for a couple minutes, and cheers them and they remember you, to anyone watching they just assume you’ve known those people for years. It’s like when you see a guy and a girl together at a bar, you rarely think “oh they’ve just met”, it’s always “oh that must be her boyfriend” lol Other people do the same thing, and you can use that to your advantage.
On some nights I’ve had girls ask me if I’m the owner of the club because they see me talking to everyone and everyone SEEMS to know me…but what they don’t realize because they got there at 11pm is that I was chatting those people up at 9pm. :)
Here’s some old-school Tyler writing on Short-Set Method:
http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/Start_PU/Approach/117.html
A lot of guys will be like “ohhh that’s just playing a numbers game” because they don’t go out and still have the James Bond fantasy of leaning against the bar all night only talking to the hottest woman in the bar and then taking her home and they view socializing as work and suffering instead of fun. Short-Set isn’t about trying to fuck all these people, it’s about building social momentum, getting around resistance from groups by being a generally social guy, and building social-proof and pre-selection so that when you DO see a girl you want, you’ve already laid a solid framework in the room that will help you when you approach and attempt to pickup “for real”.
“The 7 seems warmer than her friend (chubby, in a pink shirt).”